Post by maxthomas on Sept 26, 2019 11:40:33 GMT
1. Never underestimate yourself
The most basic rule is never to underestimate yourself. You are not alone responsible for the breakup.
There may be thousands and one reason why he left you. It's not necessarily your fault. There could have been a misunderstanding on his part ...
Review incidents from the past two months. Write down all the problems (even the small ones). Write down all your habits that he does not like. Did your actions stifle it? Not enough space to breathe? Does it make you feel uncomfortable looking at any other girl?
Who's the fault? It does not help much to think like that. What is involved here is your heart. If you have to see it to understand what was wrong, go ahead. Do not be aggressive, do not hesitate to find solutions to fix things. Speak like adults, do not cry and do not hang on to him. Never show him your despair.
You have qualities that have him more at your beginnings. Concentrate on these qualities. Show them to him. Do not be melodramatic, but be firm and specific in your approach. You know you can do it!
2. Intensify the relationship
Every relationship, whether that of a mother and her child, brothers and sisters or friends, needs nourishment. Love and care are two basic ingredients to hold on to any relationship. But beware, always remember, the excess of something is bad.
Let him know his importance in your life. If he is angry with you or broken, you can always convey your feelings in different ways. Make him realize that you miss him and want him to come back. Leave a door open, so that he does not feel he has closed all his future prospects with you.
Do not try to change it, if necessary, change yourself. Sometimes we start taking things for granted. Do not do that. Actions in a way are not always enough. It is also necessary to express feelings with words. Call it randomly, anytime, just to say (for example) ""I love you"".
Put a big smile on his face . You will be constantly in his mind (this is the main purpose of the exercise). Have you ever observed the plants closely? Plants tend to lean towards the sun and light. If they receive proper care and attention, they bloom and blossom. The same is true of any relationship."